A Personalized Alternative to Traditional Hospice Care
Perhaps a present residence or living situation cannot easily accommodate a person’s new and changing needs. A nursing home, a hospital, or a series of well-meaning but unmanaged people in and out of one’s home is not a scenario many mindful people might imagine for themselves in their final weeks as he or she must prepare for their death.
I understand that history, culture, temperament, personal beliefs, and lifestyle are all components of a life, and that each person and his or her family is individual.
There is an increasing number of people who don’t want to be denied a good death when the time is imminent. I believe that everyone deserves the best death possible as they determine that to be. My goal is to help make that a reality for those on my path by providing personalized, private end of life hospice care and support at my home in Concord, Vermont.
While a student of Gerontology and nursing at UVM in the early 90s, I worked for the MCHV on the physical Rehab Unit. I was privy to amazing and diverse people making the difficult decision to go forward with their lives in spite of sudden and chaotic circumstances.
In 1997 I began a private Case Managing business called Surrogate Son and private Hospice Care management. I compiled a small assortment of mindful and involved older clients whom I assisted with their individual needs and goals. I continued regularly supporting them through their life changes and until the ends of their lives providing personally tailored care and consultation to both clients and families.
Bill Kilgour of Surrogate Son hospice home describes what he has observed about the dying process, and what it’s like to have a “good death.”
Bill Kilgour explains the continual care he provides for patients at the end of their lives at Surrogate Son hospice home, and what is needed to create a hospice home.
Bill Kilgour talks about his experience working in rehab, his father’s illness and death, and his decision to create Surrogate Son hospice home, as a service to help people at the end of their lives.
From Clients and Colleagues
“We are grateful beyond words to Bill Kilgour, of Surrogate Son for his amazing, personalized end of life care and his compassionate and sustaining nature.”
Bill Kilgour has provided caring, thoughtful, capable and consistent respite care for my Dad and our family for a year and a half giving me the relief I needed and a way to cope with the demands of our life. I had peace of mind because I knew he was safe and content. In addition, Bill has been a friend and a guide to me and us in many valuable ways as our situation changed. I recommend him highly.
I am extremely thankful to have had the knowledge and services of Bill Kilgour. Jack loved and trusted Bill…he was patient, caring and attentive. I myself found Bill to be extremely trustworthy in the care of the most important person in my life, my husband.
I know Bill from his help in caring for my aunt and uncle over about a ten year period. Without becoming too effusive, I think he’s as close to an ideal person as I can imagine to be providing this service. I would have total faith in his knowledge, ability, character and caring.
Bill has an innate sense of recognizing, appreciating, respecting and managing the individualized needs of his clients and their family. He truly encompasses a holistic approach and philosophy. He provides a much needed conducive environment for hospice that allows family members time, opportunity and more importantly space to be with their loved one on a comfortable walk towards fate. The beauty of that doesn’t end with the death of his client, but continues with the family as they process that transition in whatever time or manner they need most. His passion is obviously his calling.